You can rise above all of it – heck, you can do anything you want to do, the
world is your oyster, all thing’s are possible – and all that other cliché
business. You are you, and isn’t it about time you stop letting others take
away your glory, your right and your promise of a new day?
Before any tactics on how to deal with “these people” can be of help to you,
there is one thing you have to realize. You are allowing yourself to
internalize their poison. “They” cannot make you feel any one way – you control
your emotions, your reactions and your destiny.
They can try to put you in a sour mood – but once you find that lowly place
all you can do is blame yourself. It was you who doubted you; they only put the
thought out there for you to soak up and run with. Worked like a charm, didn’t
it?
Since you are allowing this to happen to you on occasion (or maybe every
day), why not jot down some honest answers to a few inward-looking questions:
What are my strengths?
What are my weaknesses?
What is one thing I would
change about myself?
What makes me proud about my
life?
What makes me unhappy about
my life?
Who are my role models?
Who sees me as a role model?
If I could change anything
about my life right now, what would it be?
What are 5 short term goals I
want to accomplish?
What are 5 long term goals I
want to accomplish?
What’s my plan to get there?
Now you can see it in black and white – your life’s blueprint. Sitting before
you are all of your strengths, weaknesses, hopes, dreams, accomplishments and
motivational factors to keep on trucking on. This piece of paper holds the key
to how you view yourself – and how you can improve your life on your own terms.
Whatever negativity you see in your life is also on this sheet – and you can
easily see why “they” can get you down. No matter if they are written down or
scored into your brain, your weaknesses can make you stagnant, scared and
hopeless. But guess what, we aren’t perfect – if we were, life would be like
playing a video game with all the cheat codes. Instead, we have areas our life
where we have to work harder, play smarter and make wiser decisions.
So, you can see exactly where you let these folks get the best of you. But,
now you know the other parts – the good ones – where you should put the
majority of your focus. No more sticking your head in the sand. It’s now time
to put the “dealing with you” tactics to work.