It is often difficult to determine whether a person is on a path toward
suicide. Those who have never had thoughts of suicide are likely to
underestimate a sufferer’s ability to end their life. However, it is vital to
remember that suicide victims have extreme feelings of worthlessness and
depression. They may feel unloved or alone. Thus, it is more difficult for them
to deal with problems or envision a solution to their problems. Even more so,
family and friends should pay attention to tell-tale signs of suicide. Signs
may be subtle or obvious. The key is recognizing them, and offering much needed
support. Everyone experiences some degree of depression during their life. In
some cases, depression may lasts for several days or weeks. Of course, not
everyone who experiences the “blues” will commit suicide. Warning signs for
suicide include:
Individuals who are contemplating suicide may utter expressions such as:
“It will all be over soon.”
“I hate living.”
“I wish I were dead.”
“Everyone would be better without me.”
“Nothing matters anymore.”
Many family members and friends make the mistake of not taking these
expressions seriously. A common belief is that those who make such statements
are simply seeking attention. Although many suicide victims are secretive about
their plans, other victims express subtle hints. All expressions of suicide
should be taken seriously. Those who are good with hiding their true feelings
may appear happy or jokingly. However, if you were to have a serious one-on-one
conversation about their repeated suicidal expressions, they may be willing to
supply listeners with their true feelings.
It may help to directly ask a person if they are thinking about suicide, or
if they have ever thought about ending their life. If the answer is yes, the
listener may ask additional questions and inquire about the reason(s) behind
suicidal feelings. Have they talked to anyone about their feelings? What can
the listener do to help? How do they plan to kill themselves?
When addressing this issue it is essential for the listener to speak in a
serious, but calm manner. If the listener is smiling or laughing, the victim is
less likely to provide serious answers. Suicide is no joking matter. If a
victim is willing to openly communicate about their feelings, the listener
should use this as an opportunity to offer support. Individuals who are in the
early stages of contemplating suicide may be encouraged to seek counseling.
If the person does not agree to counseling, the listener could serve as a
continual support system offering encouragement, support, and love.
Nonetheless, a listener is not a psychiatrist. Therefore, listeners should
continually encourage counseling or speak with another trusted adult such as a
victim’s parent or spouse.